Answers Do Come...Better Answers.

A few weeks ago, I offered to become a non-lawyer advocate for a woman and her adult son struggling on several fronts—housing, the courts, mental health, and life. This was one of many families trying to make it but caught in a downward spiral. Problem after problem compounded, leaving the mother and son feeling hopeless.  

The mom is a gentle woman, a retired young children's songwriter and music teacher. I see her most mornings as she passes through my favorite Tucson coffee shop. We always exchange brief stories and smiles before she goes on her way. Yet, there is so much hardship behind that lovely smile, which I am slowly learning more about. 

Offering to become an advocate for this family did not spring out of an altruistic desire to help or do good. I only wish, but advocacy is something I know, understand, and do. It's always been an intricate part of my teaching and consulting work - it seems like a natural reflex. However, occasionally, I move too quickly in my advocacy. Even after all these years and experience, I find myself trying to force the solution before I have the entire story, until that wiser voice in my head shouts, "Slow down!" This reminds me that answers to the right course of action will come when the noise in my head quiets. 

As I slow down, the thoughtful answers begin to come - better answers.